Abortion: Pride or Regret

i-had-an-abortionThe Feminist Women’s Healthcare of California’s webpage states, “…having an abortion is more like going to the dentist than like having one’s appendix removed.” Katha Pollit of The Nation claims that abortion is “a normal event in women’s lives…” Abortion supporters want us to believe that abortion is a common part of a woman’s family planning routine and shouldn’t be accompanied by grief or shame.

Or consider Amelia Bonow, who wishes to take this campaign even further with her hashtag #shoutyourabortion in hopes of women connecting with others who have had abortions. Bonow is not alone. In fact, many pro-abortion proponents want women to be proud of their abortions. In an article posted on her website, Bonow talks about her own abortion procedure:

I think that the fact that my abortion was ‘no big deal’—both in terms of the circumstances surrounding it and my emotional reaction to it—is what made it seem revolutionary. I wasn’t raped. I didn’t have a medically necessary abortion. I wasn’t fifteen. I didn’t have an abortion because of incest. I didn’t want to be a mother and that was the only justification I felt I needed.

amy-brennemanNeither is Hollywood silent on the subject. Actor Amy Brenneman stated, in a piece she wrote for Cosmopolitan magazine in 2016, that “I am simply one of millions of women who have exercised this constitutionally protected right, and according to recent data, I am part of the 95 percent of women who do not regret their choice.”

Chelsea Handler stands by her decision to have an abortion, at the age of 16, saying that “I’m 41 now. I don’t ever look back and think, ‘God, I wish I’d had that baby.’”

However, there are other celebrities who, although they remain pro-choice, have acknowledged the weightiness of their decisions and the horror as the result of those choices. Nicki Minaj reflects on her abortion, “I thought I was going to die. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone through…It has haunted me all my life.” On her pro-choice stance she states, “It’d be contradictory if I said I wasn’t pro-choice. I wasn’t ready. I didn’t have anything to offer a child.”

Stevie Nicks believes she “couldn’t have [had children] because I was too busy. And I had all these commitments.” But she also recognized that “To give up four babies is to give up a lot that would be here now. So that bothers me, a lot, and really breaks my heart. But they’re gone, so…”

Sharon Osbourne admitted to having an abortion at 17, saying, “It was the worst thing I ever did.” Pressured by her mother who told her “You have to get rid of it,” she went to a clinic alone. “I was terrified. It was full of other young girls, and we were all terrified and looking at each other and nobody was saying a bloody word. I howled my way through it, and it was horrible.” Later she experienced three miscarriages she believes were caused by damage to her cervix during the procedure, before going on to have her three living children. She goes on to say “I would never recommend it to anyone because it comes back to haunt you.”

It is interesting that, even though many of these celebrities regret their decision or experienced some guilt or remorse over it, they remain pro-choice. Although most people would say that abortion ends a human life, they are not willing to say that abortion shouldn’t be a viable option for women. Strangely, the pro-abortion agenda wants us to believe that 95 percent of women who have abortions only feel grateful or relieved. But women are complex human beings and express their emotions differently—some expressing, some repressing, some denying they have any feelings toward their abortion at all. When we delegitimize the emotions of others, we fail to recognize their value as human beings.

For many, abortion is the gut-wrenching and terrifying decision made in the darkest of hours, leaving them with a haunting for the rest of their lives. Some never find the peace and forgiveness that Jesus offers. I commend each of you who are a “voice crying in the wilderness” for the women and men in their darkest hours, providing a welcoming place of refuge. Your voice is a sound of hope ringing in their darkest night, combatting the hallowing of defeat, despair, and deception by others in their world. Thank you for loving well.

Happy New Year!


Kim Griggs
Sparrow Solutions Group






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